Have you ever tried to settle a quarrel between two people? When you listen to both sides of the story, you’d realize that perspective is a very big deal among humans. To a large degree, everyone acts based on the perspective they have. You want to change your actions, consider changing your perspective.
If we intend to master the art of joy then, we’re going to learn to look at our lives through the right lenses, the right perspective. All it takes to walk in joy is usually just a change of perspective. Nothing external. I have written down four things we ought to get rid of if we are to keep smiling. Let’s start!
Comparison is undoubtedly one of the greatest thieves of joy. And frankly, makes so little sense. It’s so easy to look at the lives of others and see them enjoying the very things you wish you had: a nice job, #relationshipgoals, an amazing body, name it!
Sadly, the Instagram world we live in today has done little to remedy the situation. Everyone’s constantly putting out their best foot and making it seem like they couldn’t have a thing to worry about. It’s so not true!Live the life you have and learn to be comfortable with what you have. Learn to trust God's work in your life. Click To Tweet
Learn to be comfortable in your own skin. Realize that nobody has it perfect! That guy’s relationship that you admire may have issues at home. That lady, whose career you envy, may be struggling with spiritual growth. And even if they do have it all together, is still not a reason to compare. Live the life you have and learn to be comfortable with what you have. Learn to trust God to work in YOUR life, never let others be the standard.
2. Wishful thinking
You’d start to realize that pretty much everything on this list is related. Unhealthy comparison breeds discontentment and that in turn leads to wishful thinking. A person who spends hours thinking of that friend’s car, that lady’s boyfriend would soon begin to grow extremely dissatisfied.Ambition is a good thing, but once its motive isn't pure, it's backed up with envy or isn't supported with healthy achievement plans. That ambition is mere wishful thinking and will do more harm than good. Click To Tweet
Very soon, you’d find yourself desiring things that you probably never even wanted, that’s until you saw it in someone else. If you want to be joyful, learn contentment. Ambition is a good thing, but once its motive isn’t pure, it’s backed up with envy, or it isn’t supported with a healthy plan of achievement, that ambition is mere wishful thinking and would do more harm than good in the long run.
Heb 13:5 Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”
How would I become rich? Would I have a job after graduation? I’m 21 and still not in a relationship. Where do I see myself in the next five years?Worry is an armed robber. It steals joy, it comes with a lot of health and emotional issues, not to mention it kills faith. Click To Tweet
All this sounds familiar? Worry is an armed robber. It causes you to spend so much valuable time without actually doing anything about the problem. What’s more? It comes with a lot of health and emotional issues, not to mention it kills faith.
As a believer, worry is a big no-no.
Mat 6:27 Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?
Mat 6:34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
Php 4:6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.
Look at these scriptures! Worry literally doesn’t help in anyway, you’d be better off spending that time praying about those doubts and learning to trust God in the now.
4. Wrong Focus
When you look at a glass of water filled halfway, what do you see? A half full or half empty glass? It’s the same with our lives. Many would never truly be joyful because they are so focused on all the things that aren’t going well in their lives.
Isn’t it amazing when you see folks that aren’t as successful, or aren’t as privileged, live the happiest of lives? Many times, they’ve chosen to place focus on the things they do have: life, family, friendships, love and celebrate those. Fortunately, the best things in life are indeed free.
You choose to do the same today, rather than spending your days looking to that problem in your life, try to focus on the positives and be thankful for it.
Hope this list helped? In a world filled with depression, bad news and so much selfishness, you can choose to be that breath of fresh air. By God’s spirit in you, this is so possible! Intentionally decide to keep smiling – now and always.
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